Perfectionism is among the traits or behaviours that hurt us and those around us without us trying. It’s hard sometimes to feel good about yourself and to practice self-love when you simply can not fit in anywhere. Your self-esteem will be on the rocks if the people around you don’t really like you or they don’t really enjoy your company. While sometimes this could be due to reasons that you may have little or no control over, sometimes it could be due to how we present ourselves to others. This article will look at 11 steps for getting rid of perfectionism.
Unsuccessful or broken relationships can have a wild toll on your self-esteem and how this may affect the way you feel about yourself in a negative way. Some time back, I shared something awesome about learning how to love yourself. You must have a look at the article because it highlights very important aspects of self-love.
Psychologists have proven that perfectionists tend to be very self-critical, unsatisfied and unhappy.
How to stop being a perfectionist
If you have lost so many good people in your life and you think you may have pushed them away, there’s always hope of recovering lost relationships. If not, you can make a few personal changes so that your future relationships will be different. You can also start by fixing the relationship with yourself.
The only way to become a better person is by first accepting that there’s a problem somewhere. Then dig deeper within yourself to identify where the real problem might be. You must do this with a positive mindset otherwise you will be stuck in rumination and more self-loathing. Learn how to self-introspect the right way here. When you find the answers, don’t curl up in a ball of self-pity and host a self-hate party.
You must strategize. Research, read books and articles, speak to people that have had your experiences and learn how they overcame. Dedicate enough time to your personal development because it will take a considerable amount of time for you to eventually be satisfied with your desired results. Be patient with yourself. This is because as humans we grow gradually and the step you have taken is one towards growth and maturity. Don’t expect to wake up the next morning to find a giant beanstalk outside your window for you to climb to your satisfaction and happiness. There is no magic seed other than your personal efforts, patience, and perseverance in this matter.
11 steps to get rid of perfectionism tendencies.
Re-examine what you base your self-worth on
Let go of the comparison mindset
Avoid negative self-judgement
Practice unconditional self-love
Don’t be too judgemental on others
Practice acceptance and tolerance
Try to ignore the faults and focus on the strengths and positives.
Understand that setting realistic and attainable goals is not lowering your standards
Remember, it is not your obligation to fix everyone and everything around you.
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