Every now and then everyone faces some form of rejection or a situation that may result in you feeling bad about yourself. While others handle bad situations well, others find it difficult to adjust. This is due to the diversity in temperaments and personalities. So I’ll be sharing with you 14 ways of handling rejection and carry on with life. Rejection can cause low self-esteem and affect the worth you place on yourself.
Rejection can be from family, from a loved one, from society, a social platform, a job interview, etc. But it is still something bad to deal with. If you are someone who still has challenges with dealing with bad situations, today I’m sharing ways of handling rejection personally tried and tested.
14 ways of handling rejection
Self-love and acceptance are the first steps to happiness and success. I’m not talking of self-centeredness. But the act of appreciating yourself and knowing your worth. Learn how to love yourself here.
No matter how much you value approval from others, the best is to be yourself. Pretence is deceit and there’s nothing that people hate more than being deceived. Also pretending to be something you’re not is like conning or cheating someone into liking or accepting you. And it’s not you that they like, it’s the cover that you have put up that has drawn them to you, once they discover the truth, they will leave you more empty than before. Try “what you see is what you get.”
Don’t stress about what you do not have control over
For instance, you do not have control over how people feel about you or what they think about you. Neither do you have control over how they react to you. You can do a complete makeover of yourself and someone will still look for that defect in you. But you have absolute control over how you feel and react to people.
Accept things that you know will never change
I have used will and not may. “Will never change” means obviously you’re wise enough to recognize a non-redeemable situation when you see one.
Be wise enough to know when to quit
Do not force matters.
Don’t outdo yourself to please people
Pleasing everyone is technically impossible. Don’t cross your borders just to get approval.
Just know where your loyalty lies.
To be realistic, not all relationships or connections are essential to you. Know where your loyalty lies and those who matter the most to you. Usually, these are people that have proven that they genuinely care about you, flaws, and all.
Stay calm and tackle a bad situation one step at a time
It doesn’t help to panic and don’t go telling everyone what is going on. Not everyone has your best interests at heart. Always remember where your loyalty lies.
Don’t blame yourself when faced with rejection
Remember that we all face rejection every now and then in one way or another. Rejection is a normal part of life. Remember that people have the right to choose whether to like you, to like what you are offering or not. If it’s or not, don’t take it badly and don’t quit till you find your person or your audience. Unless otherwise.
Be content with the few that like you
Don’t go aspiring to pull crowds as Jack does. He might be a natural crowd puller and you might not be. You may end up getting disappointed frequently.
My mind has a tendency of dwelling on situations and amplifying them. So when faced with unpleasant thoughts due to a situation, I engage in something I love like writing or singing along to my favourite song. When all fails, I simply kneel down and ask for help in prayer. Do the same to avoid rumination or reliving certain bad experiences.
Think of tomorrow
If today got messed up, sleep on it and think of how tomorrow will be a better day. Smile at the new day, leaving yesterday in the past.
Don’t feed your sorrows
Feeling sorry for yourself; walking around all day with a sulky face, crying continuously over something is feeding your sorrows. Yes, crying is good for some as a way of releasing negative energy but don’t overdo it. Telling everyone in your way about your hurts seeking pity is feeding your sorrow.
Practice how to let go
Teach yourself how to let bygones be bygones. You can achieve this by learning how to forgive yourself and others. Avoid ruminating over situations and past experiences. Always make peace with your past.
Thank you for reading. If you have other amazing ways of how to handle rejection or bad situations that I have not mentioned above, please share by writing in the comment box. I would love to learn from you too.